Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life | Henry Cloud, John Townsend | Not a Doormat anymore

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	Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life Henry Cloud, John Townsend Zondervan, 2002 - 304 pages average customer review:based on 235 reviews view larger image
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highly recommended

Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us, mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts, emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God's will from our own.

Think twice about critical reviews...

From what I've read, it doesn't seem like those with the critical reviews haven't really read the whole book. In a society that's increasingly tolerant and co-dependent, though, I can see people resisting the truth and freedom this book offers. Let me tell you. I first read "Boundaries" over 10 years ago, when I was suffering from Major Depression in college. This book provided the way out. It has played a major role in my life ever since. I have the most amazing marriage now, and my husband and other close friends have found amazing freedom from as we read & re-read this book. We are healthy, and we are happy, but keeping "Boundaries" in the world we live in can be a challenge and takes practice... but it's worth it, as scripture always is. I'm grateful the author's aren't afraid to be true to God's Word.

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Not a Doormat anymore

I read this book a few months ago and the advice it gave me was absolutely amazing. I had worked at a job for almost four years where I was the office doormat, but the last year that I worked at the job it was becoming really out of hand. I had always stepped up to the plate and did way more than my fair share of the work around the office, but in the last year I worked there my boss informed me that one of my co-workers was not doing her work appropriately and I needed to do her job until he "figured out what to do". Well for eight months I did my job and this other person's job, I had five minute lunches as I tried to get everything done. My co-worker would come in my office and go on and on about how this was the easiest job she had ever had in her life. She started bringing in lists of things to look up on the internet because she told me she ran out of things to look up. My boss sat in his office and read all day and when I would go in to talk to him about the situation he would continue reading and wouldn't even look up at me. One day I came in early before work and told him that I was BURNED OUT! He said okay and had the co-worker do her old job for 3 days and then that was the end of it, and he had me start doing her job again. Well I put in a month notice and I quit, and after I quit they fired the co-worker because she couldn't do the job. I was always the good Christian that kept my mouth shut and did what I was told, but guess what God doesn't want you to be a doormat. He wants you to be loving and humble, but you are not responsible for someone else. I have read so so so many Christian books about the importance of being humble and to just persevere through tough challenges, but this was the first Christian book that let me know it is okay to stand up for yourself.

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MorganD

Applying the principles in this book literally changed my life and healed so many relationships in my life. It's Biblically sound and focuses on enabling people to live the life that God intended.

Boundaries is the icing on the cake of healing!

From cover to cover Boundaries is a complete Christian handbook for discovering why God created boundaries and how to implement them into our lives. By following this guide many dysfunctional people will find a path to freedom and regain control of their lives. Boundaries are clearly defined in this book in all areas; physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. Using the steps in the book will bring new health to your relationships and lead to a walk of being the loving giving people God intended us to be. Having grown up in a dysfunctional family myself, I have to say that Boundaries is the icing on the cake of healing that God has served me and I will serve to others as well.

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