The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities | Dossie Easton, Catherine A. Liszt |...

The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities | Dossie Easton, Catherine A. Liszt | "We have yet to meet a dildo that got hung up on it's own needs"

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	The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities Dossie Easton, Catherine A. Liszt Greenery Press (CA), 1997 - 280 pages average customer review:based on 87 reviews view larger image
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highly recommended

Required Reading For All Couples

So I was serious when I meant that the Ethical Slut should be required reading for all couples. Not that I think that polyamory or ethical sluthood is for everyone. In fact- let's be honest, it's not. But the chapters on communication and jealousy are amongst the best ever written. The message is clear- you have to own your own happiness and emotions, and be able to clearly communicate your needs with your partner, while at the same time respecting their needs and boundaries. These skills form the foundation of any relationship, but are paramount if you chose to push the boundaries and venture into ethical sluthood.

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"We have yet to meet a dildo that got hung up on it's own needs"

This is a fabulous book. I have been interested for a while about non-monogamy and this book helped me through some of my fears with unlearning things that have been beat into me with a monogamy-bound society. I am much like a man when it comes to sex, and there are very few things that hold me back from getting what I want. I think we all have a lot of love to give. And really...who wouldn't want to give and receive more love??
With the theory of: "you don't have to depend on any one person to fulfill your desires" (pg. 156), a whole world of possibility has opened for me. I feel encouraged to love now so more than ever. I am open to a lot more of myself than I have ever been, and it feels good. Really good.

SEX IS NICE AND PLEASURE IS GOOD FOR YOU!!

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Great book. Great idea. Time to move out of our comfort zones!

This is a great book. I couldn't help but relate it to some stories I've been reading on Literotica dot com by an author who writes under the name "Romantic1". His stories as well as this book down play the difficulties of dealing with the rest of society when you adopt a polyamorous life style. What you end up doing is picking your friends as ones sympathetic to your life style not necessarily those that will help you grow and evolve in new dimensions. Reminds me too of the book Open Marriage by George and Nena O'Neill back in the early 1970s. Changes in this direction can't happen fast enough to suit me!

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Interesting Read

I purchased this on recommendation of a friend. I found it very informative but a lot of points that were made in the book are common sense. I guess if you are thinking about this lifestyle, it is a good guide to help you put your thoughts and feeling in order.

Quick Read; Interesting Philosophy, Obvious Advice.

I read this book, not really sure what I was going to get out of it. I'm not in a "poly" relationship (or even really interested in one) but I wanted to get insight into how other relationships function and how other couples interact. Particularly, how sexuality and love play a role in couples who have an open-relationship. Since it seems relevant to the other reviewers - I'll disclose that I'm a straight male in my mid-twenties in a relationship.

A lot of the other reviews of this book seem to focus in on the authors narcissistic view of their relationship and the lesbian-centric aspect of the book. While I found both of those characteristics to be true, they're easy to read past and get to the real dirt of the book: that the modern concept of love, relationships and morality stems from a Beninger model of control - Western society depended on coupling and monogamy to control spread of disease, foster better child rearing, and so on. Ethics and morality that demanded monogamy were the lever used to control behavior and create societal constraints. Dossie and Easton throw this out and argue that society no longer needs this control and we can adjust our relationships (and ideas about ethics - i.e. slut) accordingly.

Their practical advice, I hope, should be pretty obvious: be honest, be open, recognize and avoid jealousy, be rational, maintain constraints and give respect when due. None of their advice is really unique to polyamorous relationships and seems pretty universal among any type of relationship. I was unable to really ascertain any information about what makes polyamorous relationships any different from normal ones other than that you have to work extra hard.

This book should be a quick read - if you cut out the personal anecdotes and parts where they pat themselves on the back (there are lots of those), you can crank through the book in probably about 30-45 minutes.

The only thing I felt I was really able to extract from this book was Dossie and Easton's unique philosophical view about the historical context of monogamy and a more post-modern view of sexuality. After about chapter three, I didn't get much out of the book - it all seems quite obvious and is written with a moderately offensive tone of superiority.

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