Anxious to Please: 7 Revolutionary Practices for the Chronically Nice

Anxious to Please: 7 Revolutionary Practices for the Chronically Nice | James Rapson, Craig English | Wow

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	Anxious to Please: 7 Revolutionary Practices for the Chronically Nice James Rapson, Craig English Sourcebooks, Inc., 2006 - 240 pages average customer review:based on 15 reviews view larger image
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highly recommended

Do you (or does someone you know)...

--Apologize frequently or for things you are not responsible for?
--Get preoccupied with what other people think of you?
--Become unhappy when your partner isn't happy?
--Feel worried or fretful so often it seems normal?
--Often not know what you want?
--Constantly second-guess yourself?

Chronic Niceness affects multitudes, causing severe anxiety and depression, crippling self-esteem, and undermining and destroying relationships

Anxious to Please reveals the primary psychological cause of Chronic Niceness--Anxious Attachment. Anxious Attachment drives the Nice Person to accommodate, acquiesce and avoid conflict. Nice People take what they're given rather than asking for what they want, often sacrificing relationship, careers and their own integrity.

Anxious to Please presents seven powerful practices designed to bring about: resilient self-esteem; a happier and calmer emotional life; a reality-based optimism for the future; fulfilling sex; and satisfying relationships.

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Anxious To Please Provides Valuable Insight

After reading Anxious to Please I had insight into some of my mother's behavior. My memories include her obsessive baking of desserts and giving them away to coworkers, neighbors, doctors, anyone she had contact with. She often couldn't pay her bills but always had money to buy the ingredients for her gifts. It is obvious now that she was one of the original "chronically nice" people. She wanted to be liked by everyone (except perhaps family members who were locked into a relationship by blood). None of these people became real friends.

My husband also identified his father as one of the chronically nice, though he treated his wife very poorly. He gave big parties for extended family and acquaintances paying for literally truck loads of liquor. His dad also bought people (would be friends) gas for their cars. Generous to a fault? The family was not well to do, and his mother worked in a factory.

This book will, no doubt, give others insight into themselves and into friends and family. I suspect many people will recognize relatives, who might not have always been nice to them, but who gave away time and things to strangers in a quest to be liked.

Dana Paulinski MSW

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I just happened to glance at this book while browsing in BAM the other day. Just the title made me look at it. I started reading it, and started quietly crying right there in Books-A-Million! (luckily it wasn't crowded) I read the examples and symptoms of a chronically nice person...and it's like they wrote the book about my life. It shocked me so much...I would call myself a 'textbook' case. Actually, it scared me a lot...thinking of process it will be, but intrigued me also. I think now I'm to the point where I can start really reading it and incorporating techniques, and trying to work out some big issues in my life.

Fortunately and unfortunately for me, my husband is a very assertive person...and just a couple of days after I first saw this book, he told me he can barely handle how I am like this, because he sees a stronger person in me.

When I read that it destroys relationships I thought 'Well, at least that part's not like me'...and was proven wrong 3 days later. I guess all I have to say is if you feel any way like I did, just do it: Get the book and look forward to the process. As cliche as it sounds, just admitting that I needed to work on some stuff in my life was a big step. But it doesn't require BIG steps. All you need is one little baby step at a time. I may not be MUCH better in 2 weeks, but check me out in 6 months...there will be progress :)

Good luck and God bless everyone out there
There's life to live so let's live it for once
-Jan

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Extremely helpful

In reading the cover description, I could identify with the book immediately. The author gives some helpful tips and exercises to learn to be more assertive. I was so impressed with the content, I sent it to others in my family who might enjoy the information.

Helpful guide to recovering from being too nice

Sure, it's good to be nice, but you may be "too nice." If you are clingy, care too much what others think of you and minimize the bad personalities of the people around you, then your niceness may be hurting you. Authors James Rapson and Craig English recommend seven practices that will put you on the road to a more balanced emotional life - many of these approaches will be familiar to readers who have engaged in any sort of meditation or self-awareness exercises. Lists, sidebars and quotes make the book's ideas easily accessible - although integrating these practices into your daily life will require some work. We recommend this book to self-help beginners who are tired of having sand kicked in their faces and wish to develop their tranquility and strength of character.

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Good confidence builder!

An excellent read if you're a chronic nice guy.. A great book if you want to become more confident, direct and effective in relationships.

Michael A.

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