His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage | Willard F. Harley Jr.

His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage | Willard F. Harley Jr. | His Needs, Her Needs

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	His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage Willard F. Harley Jr. Revell, 2001 - 224 pages average customer review:based on 215 reviews view larger image
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highly recommended

Best book on marriage building available.

I am a full time minister with a church in Southern California. I read extensively on family and marriage for both counseling and teaching purposes. I have read probably 100 titles on the subject.

Having said that, let me say that this book is the best material I have ever read on marriage building. Over the years, I have seen marriages collapse because one of the spouses neglected the needs of the other. It is uncanny how acurately Harley zeros in on how an affair happens. His analogy of the "love bank" is fantastic.

In my work with the church, I can say that the problem isn't that people are unaware of God's expectations for them in marriage. The men and women in pews are aware that God expects the husband to love his wife as Christ loved the church. Wives are aware of their needs to be a helper and companion of their husbands. What they lack is the knowledge of what that "looks like" in the real world. Harley paints this quite nicely for us.

I couldn't recommend this title more highly.

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His Needs, Her Needs

What an eye opener. This has helped our marriage from 50-60% to 100-120%.
So many things we did not know about the differences in how we think.
God Bless.

Review: His Needs, her Needs

This book was given as a gift to a couple who are experiencing difficulties in their young marriage. It was recommended to me by a wife who had used it successfully herself.

Interesting Point of View

I found it a bit simplistic to reduce a marriage to a set of needs that could be met or unmet. That's what behaviorist theory preaches and so far it has worked in other areas of psychology. Reading within that context, it makes sense that if you fullfill your spouse's needs, there won't be affairs. Quite optimistic!

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