The second winning point states simply that our memories were never intended for reliving and recalling trauma ad infinitum. I had to stop wonder what I was taught about memory. Does this sound familiar: "Don't make me remind you again or I'll give you something you'll never forget!"? Mix that with the pressure in school to remember stuff for testing and grades leading to success or failure before the whole world. How many of us developed memory skills in fear? It's little wonder our brains can incubate a memory that can become strong enough to just take over... bigger than godzilla! That insight deserves 5 stars because I then realized that I have a brain as I have a foot, but I am more than a collection of parts and bigger than any one of them that isn't working properly. This book quietly flipped a switch and the light bulb came on so I could see that my poor brain was killing itself trying to perfectly remember events that the rest of me would like to forget. I give my brain an E for effort, but I am retraining it now; and I can say, "thanks, brain, but no thanks. I'm too busy too think about that right now. And you don't have to remember this to remind me later, either because I have a better idea. Want to hear it?"
