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After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful | Janis Abrahms Spring, Michael Spring | no nonsense

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	After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful Janis Abrahms Spring, Michael Spring Harper Paperbacks, 1997 - 304 pages average customer review:based on 80 reviews view larger image
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highly recommended

REALLY helped me by giving me validation

When my husband had an affair with my best friend, my therapist recommended this book to me. It was VERY, VERY helpful. It really explains all the reasons people have affairs - the circumstances that can create them, what's missing inside you and in your relationship, etc. I cannot recommend it enough. It helped validate a lot of things for me and helped me gravitate back to good self-esteem. Get a copy for your spouse, too.

no nonsense

I was appalled to see how many copies of this book have been sold, and how many books there are dealing with this sad issue. Such a big problem, and it's so devestating that everyone who experiences it seems to feel desperate for an answer. This book is one of the best out there, and was recommended to me by our marriage counselor. It doesn't provide absolutes, 'must do' things, but it does provide very helpful insights into both the hurt partners point of view as well as the straying partners point of view, which is helpful when making the decision to stay or leave the relationship. I haven't run across another book that was so clearly written, and from two viewpoints. Ms. Spring certainly tried very hard to be unbiased, and for the most part succeeds. I would recommend this to anyone suffering this kind of anguish, as well as for their partner.

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A must read...no matter what side your'e on

My husband just ended an affair of over 15 months that started just months after our second child was born. My therapist as well as our marital counselor both recommended this book to us. It unlike many other self-help books about affairs walks you through what each person is thinking, feeling, etc. Even when I was at my angriest this book helped me see that he too was hurting and it helped me have some compassion for his recovery as well. I would definitely recommend this book for both partners as it truly does open your eyes to what the other person is going through...things that neither party can probably put into words.

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Best on the topic

I've read a lot of books on this topic, and this was the most helpful by far. I also strongly recommend the author's other book "How Can I Forgive You," which addresses forgiveness issues in a lot of relationship contexts, not just marital infidelity.

Good Stuff

This book was suggested by my couples therapist. I admire the view form both sides. You can read how the offender felt and how the victim felt. This is a non-judgemental book and is helping our relationship immenseley.

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