The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost...

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	The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship ... John M. Gottman, Nan Silver Three Rivers Press, 1999 - 288 pages average customer review:based on 143 reviews view larger image
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highly recommended

Consider Gottman's "The Mathematics of Marriage" if you want a more serious study

As most other reviewers here will agree, this is an excellent book.

However, even some people that see a lot of value in the ideas in this book find the writing a little too flashy and self-impressed. But that shouldn't detract from what it has to say about marriage.

This book is co-written with Nan Silver, a contributing editor for Parent magazine, and is set up to resemble and read like a pop-psychology bestseller. But don't let the trappings fool you- this book isn't the final word on Gottman's theories. It's just an "accesible" version of ideas that have a lot of merit and backing.

If you're sceptical about the scientific merit of Gottman's work, I recommend you check out his more serious volume on the subject, The Mathematics of Marriage, published by MIT. You can buy it on here, or even read some of it for free on Google Books. It's long, mathematical and not as enjoyable to read from cover-to-cover, but if you want hard numbers and facts on the subject it's a great resource.

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You Can Learn a Lot From This

Many people could benefit from this. I have recommended the beginning exercises to two couples and they have found them helpful. In marital therapy ANY possibility of improvement is a Godsend. The following could also benefit from this book: 1. Anyone who is in an intimate relationship and would like to experience some enrichment. 2. Anyone who wishes to know more about healthy relationships. 3. Anyone who has difficulty in relationships and would like to learn from their experiences.

The big caveat here is motivation and goodwill. If you're in a situation in which there is no desire to work on the relationship other than in the therapy hour, and there is no willingness to see the good in the other, chances of improvement are going to be very slim no matter what you do. By the way, I would also recommend Cloud and Townsend's book: Boundaries.

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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work:

This book is for couples who truly want to save their marriage. It can be done, even after years of problems! You must work together using this method. Helps you understand yourself and your partner so you each can support each other!

Great and different view

This book provides a different take on what makes marriages work. With scientific study centralized on what makes marriages stay together and what makes them truly separate, Grottman analyzes marriage as an institution based on such science rather then conventional marriage therapy wisdom.

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